Recently, while I was scrolling through my daily news feeds, I came across a general interest story that caught my attention. 

The story was about a social trend that is most noticeable in Generation Z youth (those born between 1997 and 2012). The story was about the “Gen Z Stare.” The reason this story piqued my interest, was because I have been on the receiving end of this recent “trend” many times. I’ve received this stare while making small talk in shop queues, from shop assistants and in airports. 

That blank, detached look screams, “I’m here physically, but mentally? Nah, I’m not interested.” It’s becoming a kind of social trademark among young people today. Just think vacant eyes, passive expression, and minimal reaction—it’s the opposite of being emotionally present. 

But here’s the thing; connection matters! And while the “Gen Z stare” might feel like a coping mechanism or default vibe in uncomfortable situations, it is hurting relationships, confidence, and even your walk with God. While it might be a relatable reaction to the pressures of modern life, it creates a wall between people. And over time, it chips away at the sense of connection. God created us to have meaningful connections! 

Genesis 2:18 reminds us, “It is not good for man to be alone.” God designed us for face-to-face, heart-to-heart relationships—not just digital connections or detached coexistence. The way Jesus Christ interacted with people was direct, intentional, and full of presence. He saw people; truly saw them. Think of Zacchaeus in the tree (Luke 19:1-10) or the Samaritan woman at the well (John 4:7-26) Jesus made eye contact, spoke directly to them, and drew people in. What about the bleeding woman who reached out in a crowd (Luke 8:43–48)? Jesus stopped, saw, listened, and responded. 

Avoiding eye contact or retreating behind an emotionless expression might be comfortable in the moment, but it blocks the depth God wants us to have in our friendships, family, employment, and church congregations. Proverbs 20:12 says, “The hearing ear and the seeing eye—the Lord has made them both.” Your eyes are powerful! They can show empathy, interest, kindness, or concern. When you meet someone’s gaze, you say, “I see you. You matter.” 

Avoiding eye contact might feel safer, but it can unintentionally come off as indifference or even disrespect. And in a world starving for genuine interaction, reclaiming your presence—even when it feels awkward—is a way to love others boldly. Remember what Paul said to Timothy, “For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind” (2 Tim 1:7). We were created for far more than just a timid retreat! 

Here are some steps to help you shift from “staring through people” to actually seeing them. Firstly, pray for boldness; ask God to help you be more present and courageous in social situations. He loves it when we lean on Him for help. Secondly, start small; hold eye contact for just a few seconds longer in conversations. But be patient, it’s a skill—it takes time! Thirdly, be curious; ask questions, show interest. Practice being engaging even when it’s not your comfort zone. 

Being intentional with how you engage with people, even in the simplest ways, can set you apart. It’s not about being an extrovert or being overly expressive; it’s about choosing presence over apathy. Eye contact, active listening, and genuine interest make you a powerful force for change, love, and connection with all those you come in contact with. 

Your generation can be deeply intuitive, emotionally intelligent, and socially aware. Don’t let culture rob you of your authenticity and uniqueness. The “Gen Z Stare” might feel trendy or protective, but it’s not your identity. You’re created for joy, depth, and impact!